When I'm feeling down on myself, often it is because I feel as though I am not living to my highest potential. I may have said something I was (or wasn't) going to do, and then did the opposite. "Didn't you say you were going to blog weekly, Steph?!" Yes - my point exactly! Many times I sink into a funk because I truly and whole-heartedly believe I can be more disciplined - more structured - more routined. . . . . and then I let myself down. It's almost like this weird guilt that takes over and perpetuates itself through my thoughts. By no means would I consider myself a lazy person - yet when I don't Follow Through with something, it leads me to believe that I am. I feel less confident in myself, a reduced sense of motivation and even sometimes. . . . . I doubt my own goals! How ridiculous, right?!!
Let me give you a very simple, yet very real example for me:
There are times I feel as though I have an uncontrollable need for chocolate (who me??!). And if you know me very well or have read my blogs before, I am sure I have talked about my Frankenstein-like walk when it comes to this tasty treat - arms straight forward, blank stare on my face, and nobody gets in my way - nobody..... :)
Here is the dealio - when I feel most guilty about eating this deliciousness is when I am alone. Yup - when I shove a piece (oooorrr maybe 2) of chocolate in my mouth when I'm by myself, that's when I know I am going against my word. I am not saying it isn't ok for me to eat chocolate - what I am saying is, my current strength and weight goals will not benefit from this consumption - so why do I do it?
The Hard Facts:
When it comes to Following Through, no one is REALLY watching you or holding you accountable. Seriously. Think about it. Your friends, family, coach, trainer - they have lives to live! And they may act like they care, but honestly - it's no skin off their back if you don't succeed.
So here in lies the problem with Following Through:
No one is going to do the work for you!
Say whaaaat??!! Yup you heard that right! Turns out you are not going to become the next big star by sitting around and hoping it happens. You are not going to get thinner by thinking about eating healthy. You're not going to get a new job by completing your resume. You actually have to DO something and take action. Whether it be practicing for an audition, following a meal plan or submitting that resume - you have to actually DO the WORK! Waiting for success to jump in your lap is a joke! Most successful people in this world are Following Through on the actions that propel them forward toward their goals they have set for themselves.
But ya know, maybe it's not as easy for us to see. Have you ever witnessed a new movie star pop on to the big screen out of nowhere?! Almost always, our immediate thought is how they must have "got lucky!" What we forget to think about is how long that person has been working toward this goal. Most successful actors and actresses are not sitting in Starbucks, sipping on coffee and randomly getting asked to be in major movies. In fact, many actors work their ENTIRE lives to be where they are now - but the only part we see is their success.
It's time we Follow Through with the hard work behind the curtain, behind closed doors. The work that no one else sees. The blood, sweat and tears you push through for YOU, and nobody else. Let's start holding OURSELVES accountable and see what kind of magic happens in life!
Easier said than done? I mean, yea - sure! ANYTHING is easier said than done! BUT, the question is - do you want your goals to become a reality badly enough? If you do, than Follow Through. Even start with somethings small - Follow Through with at least one action item this week that will drive your goals onward and upward.
Life shouldn't be about looking back and wishing you did things differently. Life shouldn't be about regretting parts of your past or beating yourself up over things you "should have" done. Life should be about appreciating the decisions you've made in order to create the person you are. If you don't like the person you are, then change something.....now! Don't look back and regret the life you've created. Live in your now - if you need to, change the present moment - and be happy. How might you accomplish this?! My suggestion. . . . . Follow Through!
Until next time. . . . . see you at the gym! :-)